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Ways To Help Oppositional Defiant Children

Updated: Jul 6, 2023

ways to help oppositional defiant children (ODD)
To Help Oppsitional Defiant Children

Following my previous post about things we should avoid with children who are oppositional, I would like to share in this post helpful strategies.

• Using non-confrontational and invitational statements such as “I think that if we are able to get this done before 11:00, then we could get some free time” vs “do your homework now”.

• Aim for a “win-win” situation with no power struggle between the child and the caregiver (authority).

• Show the child that you care whenever he/ she seems in distress, frustrated or anxious.

• If the child’s problem behavior escalates, avoid talking to him/ her while engaging in problem behaviors. Instead, wait a few minutes until calmer, and then address the situation.

• Plan with your child ahead of time. Get him/ her to collaborate with ideas and preparation.

• Set easy mini-goals together as well as SOS strategies.

• Be flexible and model flexible behavior.

• Watch for your body language, and approach him/ her getting in his/ her level.

• Be positive, creative, friendly.

• Use positive affirmations such as “believe you can.. And you are halfway there! (Theodore Roosevelt)”.

• Use a visual task list.

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